Question

As is well known, saying “no” is not easy at all. But sometimes we have to learn to say “no”. To learn to say “no”, we have to first understand what’s stopping us about it. There are some common reasons why people find it hard to say “no”.

You want to help others. You are a kind soul(灵魂) at heart. You don’t want to turn the person away and you want to help when possible, even if it may take up your time.

Afraid of being rude. I was brought up under the idea that saying “no”, especially to people who are older, is rude. This thinking is common in Asian culture, where face-saving is important. It means not making others look bad or lose faces.

Wanting to be agreeable. At times, you find you are not in agreement. You don’t want to keep yourself away from the group, so you agree to do others’ requests(请求).

Fear of conflict(冲突). The person might be angry if you refuse him. This might lead to an ugly conflict. Even if there isn’t, there might be disagreement which might lead to bad effects(影响) in the future.

Fear of losing opportunities(机会). Sometimes, saying “no” means closing doors or losing opportunities. It may make you feel worried. For example, one of my friends was asked to work in another department(部门) in her company(公司). Since she liked her team, she didn’t want to go. However, she didn’t want to say “ no” as she felt it would affect her promotion(晋升) opportunities in the future.

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1.In Asian culture, it is ______________________________ to say “no” to people who are older.

2.Why do you agree to do others’ requests?

____________________________________________________________________.

3.What does saying “no” mean sometimes?

___________________________________________________________________.

4._________________________________________________________________.

5._________________________________________________________________.

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