If you want to teach your children how to say sorry, you must be good at saying it yourself, especially to your own children. But how you say it can be quite tricky.
If you say to your children “I’m sorry I got angry with you, but …” what follows that “but” can render the apology ineffective: “I had a bad day” or “your noise was giving me a headache ” leaves the person who has been injured feeling that he should be apologizing for his bad behavior in expecting an apology.
Another method by which people appear to apologize without actually doing so is to say “I’m sorry you’re upset”; this suggests that you are somehow at fault for allowing yourself to get upset by what the other person has done.
Then there is the general, all covering apology, which avoids the necessity of identifying a specific act that was particularly hurtful or insulting, and which the person who is apologizing should promise never to do again. Saying “I’m useless as a parent” does not commit a person to any specific improvement.
These pseudo-apologies are used by people who believe saying sorry shows weakness. Parents who wish to teach their children to apologize should see it as a sign of strength, and therefore not resort to these pseudo-apologies.
But even when presented with examples of genuine contrition, children still need help to become aware of the complexities of saying sorry. A three-year-old might need help in understanding that other children feel pain just as he does, and that hitting a playmate over the head with a heavy toy requires an apology. A six-year-old might need reminding that spoiling other children’s expectations can require an apology. A 12-year-old might need to be shown that raiding the biscuit tin without asking permission is acceptable, but that borrowing a parent’s clothes without permission is not.
【小题1】According to the author, saying “I’m sorry you’re upset” most probably means “_______”.
| A．You have good reason to get upset |
| B．I’m aware you’re upset, but I’m not to blame |
| C．I apologize for hurting your feelings |
| D．I’m at fault for making you upset |
| A．the complexities involved should be ignored |
| B．their ages should be taken into account |
| C．parents need to set them a good example |
| D．parents should be patient and tolerant |
| A．a social issue calling for immediate attention |
| B．not necessary among family members |
| C．a sign of social progress |
| D．not as simple as it seems |
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Chess-playing machines were a common feature at the 19th century carnivals(狂欢节) .They would take on all competitors and usually wan, but they were all frauds(骗局)with human beings concealed inside.
Two centuries later, the “machine” is real.
A computer programmer Deep Fritz held world champion, Vladimir Kramnik, to a 4-4 tie. In doing so, Kramnik felt just short of avenging (复仇)the 1997 defeat of his predecessor Garry Kasparov at the hands of IBM's Deep Blue.
Deep Fritz is a commercially available product produced by Germany's Chessbase Gmbh. In this match it was running on 8,900 Mhz processors and could analyze 3 million positions a second.
Kramnk admitted he found the match exhausting. “ I need some time to recover. ”he said comparing the match with his 2000 defeat of Kasparov. “The pressure is similar but preparing against a computer is much more difficult. It has all the knowledge and you have to be prepared for all openings. With a human, you know that certain openings don't suit his style and won't happen, but not with a computer. ”
“The games themselves were different,” he said, “Against a computer, you have a feeling that if you make one mistake, it's over. So it's like going through a minefield. You're always watching for tactics, even in a quiet position.”
He also said that computers play faster. “The game has a different rhythm and it puts more pressure on you.”
“The main problem, ”he said, “is that you can never understand its logic. In a human sense, it has no logic. With a human opponent, you feel him and you know what path he will take.”
Chess enthusiasts have been arguing for centuries whether it's an art, a science, a sport or something else.
Kramnik doesn't see the emergence of computers making any difference to this argument. “Chess is very wide. It's not merely these things but a small model of the world. ”
Next spring, Kramnik is scheduled to defend his title as Einstein Classical Chess World Champion against Peter Leko of Hungary. While he welcomes a rematch against Fritz, it's not certain when it will take place.
1．The difficulties of competing with the computer doesn't lie in that ________.
[ ]
A．you can never understand its logic
B．the computer plays faster
C．it has all knowledge and you have to prepare for all openings
D．if you make one mistake, it's over
2．The underlined word “exhausing” ( in Para. 5 ) means ________.
[ ]
A．making something interesting
B．making someone excited
C．making someone tired
D．making something endless
3．Put the following events in the right order:
(1) Garry Kasparov was defeated by Deep Blue .
(2)Chess-playing machines were not real.
( 3 ) After competing with Deep Fritz, Kramnik felt exhausted .
(4)Kramnik's competition with Peter Leko of Hungary.
[ ]
A．(2)-(4)-(1)-(3)
B．(2)-(1)-(3)-(4)
C．(2)-(3)-(4)-(1)
D．(1)-(A)-(3)-(2)
4．What did Kramnik think of the chess?
[ ]
A．It became more and more difficult after the chess-playing machines were invented.
B．Chess is an art, a science, a sport, etc.
C．It's more and more popular, with the computer developing.
D．Chess is a small world which is wide.
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—You can take as many as you like because they are free of _____.
A. cost B. charge C. money D. pay
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Beijing, April 2----Starting from this year, the Beijing Municipal Health Bureau will begin to promote a home medical service. With this service a medical team which is made up of a doctor, a nurse and a medical health worker will be sent to some communities in the city. They will set up a medical filing recorder for every resident in community and publicize their contact information to them. If people in the community feel sick, they can consult their community doctor first. If community doctors cannot treat their illness, they will then be transferred to large hospitals. Liang Wan, deputy director of the Beijing Municipal Health Bureau, made the statement last Friday .
In addition ,the Beijing Municipal Health Bureau will set up some funds to train home medical service workers for families whose members suffer either from high blood pressure, diabetes,cerebral apoplexy , or coronary heart disease . The home medical service workers will remind patients to take pills on time and lead the patients to follow some health tips in their daily life. They will also learn some practical knowledge to save patients in case of an emergency .
The work will first begin in the medical service room in the 25 community centers and spread to all communities in Beijing. The disease prevention and control centers at various counties and districts in Beijing will be responsible for teaching community doctors and giving home medical service lectures, or advice . These workers will not be able to work until they pass related examination and obtain the work certificates. It is expected that by the end of this year, there will be 10000 home medical service workers in Beijing .
26. Where does a person go to see first if he gets sick according to the passage ?
A. The community clinics. B. Large hospital .
C. Private clinic . D. Small hospital .
27. Which of the following is NOT true according to the passage?
A.The medical team which is made up of a doctor, a nurse and a medical health worker will set up a medical filing record for every resident.
B. The home medical service workers not only give some healthy suggestions to the patients, but also learn practical knowledge about first aid.
C. Some funds will be provided by Beijing Municipal Health Bureau for home medical service training.
D. The government aims to offer the home medical service for free.
28. If you want to work as a home medical worker, you need to _____________.
A. receive the training about medical service.
B. pass related examinations.
C. obtain the work certificates.
D. All the above.
29. What can we learn from the passage?
A. All communities in Beijing have started home medical service.
B. People in Beijing will not easily get ill.
C. Medical service in Beijing will be promoted greatly in the future.
D. The other cities in China should learn from Beijing.
30. The main purpose of the passage is __________
A. to introduce community service in Beijing.
B. to report home medical service available in Beijing.
C. to provide some efficient treatments for diseases in community.
D. to describe a special medical team in Beijing.
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Beijing, April 2----Starting from this year, the Beijing Municipal Health Bureau will begin to promote a home medical service. With this service a medical team which is made up of a doctor, a nurse and a medical health worker will be sent to some communities in the city. They will set up a medical filing recorder for every resident in community and publicize their contact information to them. If people in the community feel sick, they can consult their community doctor first. If community doctors cannot treat their illness, they will then be transferred to large hospitals. Liang Wan, deputy director of the Beijing Municipal Health Bureau, made the statement last Friday .
In addition ,the Beijing Municipal Health Bureau will set up some funds to train home medical service workers for families whose members suffer either from high blood pressure, diabetes,cerebral apoplexy , or coronary heart disease . The home medical service workers will remind patients to take pills on time and lead the patients to follow some health tips in their daily life. They will also learn some practical knowledge to save patients in case of an emergency .
The work will first begin in the medical service room in the 25 community centers and spread to all communities in Beijing. The disease prevention and control centers at various counties and districts in Beijing will be responsible for teaching community doctors and giving home medical service lectures, or advice . These workers will not be able to work until they pass related examination and obtain the work certificates. It is expected that by the end of this year, there will be 10000 home medical service workers in Beijing .
1.Where does a person go to see first if he gets sick according to the passage ?
A. The community clinics.?????????? B. Large hospital .
C. Private clinic .???????? ???????? D. Small hospital .
2.Which of the following is NOT true according to the passage?
A.The medical team which is made up of a doctor, a nurse and a medical health worker will set up a medical filing record for every resident.
B. The home medical service workers not only give some healthy suggestions to the patients, but also learn practical knowledge about first aid.
C. Some funds will be provided by Beijing Municipal Health Bureau for home medical service training.
D. The government aims to offer the home medical service for free.
3.If you want to work as a home medical worker, you need to _____________.
A. receive the training about medical service.????????
B. pass related examinations.
C. obtain the work certificates.???????????????????
D. All the above.
4.What can we learn from the passage?
A. All communities in Beijing have started home medical service.
B. People in Beijing will not easily get ill.
C. Medical service in Beijing will be promoted greatly in the future.
D. The other cities in China should learn from Beijing.
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