Everyone should learn to apologize. Apology language do work. Have you ever tried to apologize, only to be refused? It may be that you were offering partial apology in a “language” that was foreign to your listener. The five languages of apology include:
Apology Language 1: “I am sorry.”
List the hurtful effects of your action. NOT “I am sorry if…”, but “I am sorry that…”. You might ask if they want to add any points that you have not recognized.
Apology Language 2: “I was wrong.”
Name your mistake and accept fault. Note that it is easier to say “You are right ” than “ I am wrong”, but the latter carries more weight.
Apology Language 3: “What can I do to make it right ?”
How are you now? How shall I make amends to you? How can I RESTORE YOUR CONFIDENC that I love you even I was so hurtful to you?
Apology Language 4: “I WILL TRY NOT TO DO THAT AGAIN.”
Engage in problem-solving. Do not make excuses for yourself such as: “Well my day just so …” Instead, offer what you will change to prevent yourself putting them in the same bad situation again.
Apology Language 5: “Will you please forgive me?”
Be patient in seeking forgiveness. They may need some time or greater clarification of your input from Apology Languages 1-4.
Finally, your apology may not be accepted, but at least you know that you have been faithful in offering a sincere olive branch of peace.
41. When offerring an apology, which of the following dose the author prefer?
A. “You are right .” B. “I am sorry if …” C. “I am wrong.” D. “Well , my day was just so…”
42. In the last paragraph ,the author tells us even if your apology may not be accepted , at least __________ .
A .It is not your fault any more. B. Your mind will be at peace.
C. your friend will make peace with you. D. your apology is true to your heart.
43 .What does the passage mainly talk about?
A. Five tips for apology that work. B. Five ways of refusing apology.
C. The function (功能) of apology language. D. The importance of apology language
科目:高中英语 来源:2013届浙江临海白云高级中学高三第三次模拟英语卷(带解析) 题型:阅读理解
A. Arguments are pointless.
B. Your parents only want what's best for you.
C. Everyone's opinion matters only as much as you want them to.
D. You learn by doing.
E. Your emotions are under your control.
F. You aren't stuck in any situation
Life is the greatest teacher
There always comes a moment when I wonder where I will end up and this moment always serves as a strong motivation for me to learn life lesson. I've learned a great many things, but these are the lessons that I wish I'd learned earlier:
【小题1】_________
There was a time when everyone's opinion was mine as well. Whatever preferences I formerly held were dashed in the face of another's. This most likely came from a need to please others. Remember that your opinion matters just as much as the next guy's, whether they make more money than you or are less popular than you. Everyone's opinion holds the same weight.
【小题2】_________
Drama, chaos, and emotional unrest — these were what took up most of my time as a teenager. If I had heard someone said bad things behind my back, I'd be angry. Go crazy. Looking back on those tantrums now, I'm not too surprised. After all, when you have little self control, anything is possible. The lesson here is, remain aware of how you react.
【小题3】_________
Will one small argument among friends decide the fate of the entire universe? In my world it felt like it. I just wanted so much to be right and for them so much to be wrong. But in the end, it only resulted in me wasting my time and in the other person storming off in frustration. Is there really a point to arguing? Unless it's absolutely necessary, I've learned that it's better to hold your breath on things you can't control at all. Arguing to change someone's mind is one of them.
【小题4】_________
I'm not saying every parent wants what's best for you (there are outliers), but in general, parents do what they do for you in your best interest. My parents used to make me do the dishes, cook dinner, sweep the floors, mow the lawn, take out the garbage… the list goes on and on. And at every turn, I'd whine and complain. I'd eventually end up doing it. Now, I honestly see the value in having learned those skills. I can efficiently cook and clean up after myself.
【小题5】_________
Whenever I’d lose a friend, get an awful grade, or disappoint my parents, I stewed in my own muck. Waiting for the bad moments to go away seemed to be the only solution. Fortunately, I know now that you don’t have to be stuck in bad situations. You can go out and create better ones. It all depends on perspective; on how you see the situation. Viewing everything as a learning experience makes life more pleasurable, even during the hard times. You aren't stuck. You can move on.
I'm glad to have learned these lessons the way I did. Each experience helped shape me to become a better person. I don't know if any young people are reading this, but if they are, I'd like to say this: “Listen to life and its experiences. Everyone goes through mostly the same things.”
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科目:高中英语 来源:2011-2012学年广东省龙川一中高一5月月考英语试卷(带解析) 题型:阅读理解
When I was six years old, my mom told me that I could find anyone's number in the phone book. I used to look through the phone book for hours trying to find Michael Jordan's phone number. When I couldn't find it, I just dialed seven numbers. When someone answered, I'd ask, "Is that Michael Jordan?" Obviously, I always had the wrong number.
A year later I started playing basketball at my local recreation center. It was very big. I never thought in my wildest dreams that a basketball court could be inside a building. The recreation center had a special smell in it, sort of like hot rubber. I guessed it was from the shoes hitting the floor so fast and hard. The atmosphere on the court was carefree. Our biggest excitement of the day was when we actually made a shot. We celebrated wins over ice cream at a fast food restaurant.
I got good at it, and my confidence grew. I played it all the time until the sixth grade. As soon as junior high school came, I stopped playing basketball and focused on school. When senior high school started, I tried out for the school team and made it. We worked hard. Every week we did 300 push-ups and 300 sit-ups on our own. Our coach encouraged the sit-ups to keep stomach power, because it gave us so much control when we were playing basketball. If we didn't want to do the sit-ups and push-ups, we could practice dribbling (运球) and shooting more. It's just us, the ball, the court and the net. But don't take my word for it. See for yourself. After all, I'm just one kid playing the game.
【小题1】From Paragraph 1 we know that ____.
A.the author's mother gave him some wrong phone numbers |
B.the phone book contained everyone's phone number except Michael Jordan's |
C.the author wanted to contact Michael Jordan very much |
D.the author didn't know how to use a phone at that time |
A.The days of the author playing basketball at a recreation center. |
B.The author's excitement of making shots when playing basketball. |
C.The days before the author went to senior high school. |
D.The author's happy childhood with his teammates. |
A.That it was very near to his home. |
B.That there was a basketball court inside the building. |
C.That there was a special smell in it. |
D.That there was a fast food restaurant in it. |
A.it is the basic preparation to play basketball |
B.it is more useful than dribbling and shooting |
C.it is the only way to make people stronger |
D.it helps keep stomach power |
A.To introduce some skills in playing basketball. |
B.To tell us about his dream of becoming a basketball star. |
C.To introduce his own experience of playing basketball. |
D.To tell us how to balance playing basketball and studying. |
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科目:高中英语 来源:江西省瑞昌一中2009-2010学年度高一下学期期中考试英语试题 题型:阅读理解
Arguing with your parents is totally natural for teens. From your hairstyle to your friends, to your marks at school, to your television habits, to your future plans, it might just seem like you argue with your parents about everything. While this is not generally a pleasant state of affairs, it is normal and it will most likely pass.
Argue fairly
Arguments between teens and parents generally come about when both parties believe that they know what is best for the teen. Parents have been caring for their teens for over a decade, but teens are quickly becoming adults and believe that they are able to take care of themselves. If you must agree with them, argue fairly by: Allowing each person to speak their mind. Refusing to interrupt others when they are speaking. Sticking only to the topic at hand.
Argue respectfully
No matter how heated things may get during an argument, try to remember that your parents still are worthy of your attention, respect and love. During arguments, be respectful by: Keeping your voice lowered at all times and refusing to shout. Sitting still and staying calm. Refusing to engage in angry actions such as kicking, throwing or hitting anything. Reasonably explaining the reasons for your opinions.
_________
There is a thin line between having a discussion and engaging in an argument, but smart teens know that keeping their interactions with their parents at the discussion level practically guarantees that they will be taken more seriously. No one likes to argue, and the parents of teens can be especially weary of it, so keeping things at the discussion level will work to everyone's advantage.
Arguing with parents is practically a sign of the teenaged years, but out-of-control arguments don't serve anyone well. Before arguing with your parents, decide what type of teen you want to be and what compromises (妥协)you are willing to make in order to achieve your goals. You never know, you might just avoid an argument all together.
60.This passage mainly tells teens______.
A. arguments don't solve any problem
B. arguing with parents may hurt them
C. some tips on arguing with parents
D. how to avoid arguing with parents
61. When arguing with your parents, you should______.
A. make up your mind not to give in
B. show your respect for them
C. express your opinions through actions
D. make full preparations for it
62. Which of the following is proper for the blank in the passage?
A. Take discussion seriously B. Argue seriously
C. To be smart teens D. Argue only when needed
63. The underlined phrase "be weary of "in the passage probably means_ ___.
A. be proud of . B. be interested in
C. be tired of D. be satisfied of
64.It seems that the author thinks teens' arguing with parents is_______
A. normal B. practical C. shameful D. impolite
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科目:高中英语 来源:2011届湖南省雅礼中学高三第六次月考英语试卷 题型:阅读理解
People say teenagers are no good. They make too much noise in shopping malls; they drive recklessly(不顾一切地) up and down America’s main streets; they carry chips on their shoulders as big as the Sears Tower. And at least some of the time those things are true. But we shouldn’t forget that there are hard moments in the life of a teenager too.
I watched such a moment not long ago at a woman’s funeral. I didn’t expect the event to affect me. Through much of the ceremony, in fact, I remained unmoved.
The teenage grandson stepped forward. With his very first deep breath, every heart in that church was achingly reminded of something we had all forgotten. Softly he began: “I want to share a few values that Nana taught me. She never failed to see light in any situation. When our family dog would truely attract her, what would Nana say? ‘oh, what beautiful barking that dog has!’ That was Nana. ”
“She was a strong woman who often lived in the shadow of my grandpa, who was a successful businessman in this city. But she was the one behind the scenes who provided the strength and support for my grandpa’s career,” he said, with a voice now trembling, “That was Nana’s way.”
Through a low sob, he continued, “Whenever she did anything worth recognition, you ’d have to hear about it from a different source, because she was never one to show off.”
Finally, in a voice breaking free of sorrow, he looked up and said, “Nana taught me courage. She put up an incredible fight to the end, when she died peacefully, which is how she lived her life. That was Nana’s way, and I hope I can carry on in the same manner.”
There are no hearts as sensitive as those of teenagers, because everything is happening to them for the first time. The trouble with teenagers is that they haven’t learned to be controlled.
When that boy rose to speak about the woman who surely had been his truest and dearest friend, his honest voice dragged each of us out into the open where we could no longer hide in the calm ceremony . He exposed us to the truth about this very real woman who believed in a boy who probably tried the patience of many adults. He reminded us that his grandmother was more than another dot on the chart of life and death.
All over again we felt those powerful losses crossing our own hearts, and we knew that when you say good-bye to something happy, something young in yourself. And that something never really returns, and the pain never really goes away.
【小题1】In the first paragraph, the writer gave some examples to_____.
A.support his idea that young people are no good. |
B.introduce his point of view about young people. |
C.tell people every coin has its two sides. |
D.young people often make mistakes. |
A.his grandmother had great influence on him. |
B.they had a dog which often attacked people |
C.people had forgotten her until the boy appeared.. |
D.his grandmother was so weak that she is always living in the shadow of his grandpa |
A.The boy ‘s speech moved no one present at the funeral except the writer. |
B.The boy’s being good at expressing himself enabled him to draw everyone’s attention. |
C.The boy was too grieved to accept the fact that his grandmother had passed away. |
D.The writer didn’t expect the event would affect him. |
A.facing certain bitter facts help young people to grow. |
B.young people have to control themselves |
C.the adults should learn from the young. |
D.the adults should teach the young how to be brave |
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科目:高中英语 来源:2015届湖北咸宁鄂南高中高一上学期期中考试英语试卷(解析版) 题型:阅读理解
First Lady Michelle Obama is a big fan of volunteering. Volunteering means working for free to help someone else. Mrs. Obama says volunteering is very important. “It should be part of everyone’s life, ” she says.
Many teens agree. They say that helping others feels great and makes a difference. These days, more teens volunteer than work for pay. Teens clean up parks, walk dogs at animal shelters , visit the elderly and more.
Some cities ---- including Seatle, Chicago, and Washingtong,D.C. ----require high school students to volunteer. Students must volunteer in order to graduate. The student volunteers learn new skills and help their communities (社区).
Many parents are in favor of the idea ---- they say volunteering helps teens build job skills. But most teens don’t want to be forced to volunteer. They say they are busy. And they say volunteering is only fun if it’s a choice.
Read both sides of the debate (辩论) and decide.
YES
● Volunteering can help teens get into college or get a job.
● Many cities and towns need help. Volunteers can help keep important programs going.
● Not all teens will volunteer if it isn’t required. Schools should repuire students to do all they can to get ready for adult life.
NO
● Most teens are already very busy with classes, homework, jobs and sports. Forcing them to do more isn’t fair.
● It should be up to each person. Helping out doesn’t feel as good if you have to do it.
● Finding a volunteer job isn’t always easy. Students shouldn’t be kept from graduating because of something they can’t control.
1.The writer mentions Michelle Obama in order to ,
A.introduce the topic of the text
B.explain what volunteering is
C.tell what she does for the US
D.show she enjoys volunteering
2.According to the text, in Chicago, .
A.finding a volunteer job is quite easy
B.more people would rather work for pay
C.volunteering is a must for high school students
D.college students have to volunteer before graduation
3.The underlined part “are in favor of “ in the text means” .
A.drop B.develop C.catch D.like
4.Which question does the text mainly discuss?
A.Is volunteering good for students?
B.What is the best time to volunteer?
C.Should students be required to volunteer?
D.Which volunteer jobs should students do?
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