It is better to lose one's life than ________.

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A．if you lose your spirit

B．losing his spirit

C．to lose one's spirit

D．your spirit getting lost

Everyone has good days and bad days.

Sometimes, you feel as if you're on top of the world．But occasionally you feel horrible, and you lose things and you cannot focus on your schoolwork.

For more than 20 years, scientists have suggested that high self-esteem (自尊) is the key to success. Now, new research shows that focusing just on building self-esteem may not be helpful. In some cases, having high self-esteem can bring bad results if it makes you less likeable or more upset when you fail at something.

"Forget about self-esteem," says Jennifer Crocker, a psychologist (心理学家) at the University of Michigan, US. "It's not the important thing."

Feeling good

Crocker's advice may sound a bit strange because it is good to feel good about yourself.

Studies show that people with high self-esteem are less likely to be depressed, anxious, shy, or lonely than those with low self-esteem.

But, after reviewing about 18,000 studies on self-esteem, Roy Baumeister, a psychologist at Florida State University, has found that building up your self-esteem will not necessarily make you a better person.

He believes that violent and wicked (邪恶的) people often have the highest self-esteem of all. He also said: "There's no evidence that kids with high self-esteem do better in school."

Problems

All types of people have problems. People with high self-esteem can have big egos (自我) that can make them less likeable to their peers (同龄人), said Kathleen Vohs, a psychology professor at Columbia University.

People with high self-esteem tend to think more of themselves, Vohs says. People with low self-esteem are more likely to rely on their friends when they need help.

What to do

Researchers say it is best to listen to and support other people. Find positive ways to contribute to society. If you fail at something try to learn from the experience. "The best therapy (药方) is to recognize your faults," Vohs says. "It's OK to say, 'I'm not so good at that,' and then move on."

The new research comes to the conclusion that high self-esteem ______.

       A．is not important at all      B．has taken on a different meaning

       C．may not be the key to success  D．does not help you do better at school

One of the conclusions of the new research is that ______.

       A．feeling good about oneself doesn’t mean you lead a happier life

       B．people with high esteem usually do not seek other’s help

       C．people with high esteem tend to be proud

       D．people with low esteem are often more popular

The underlined part “a better person” in the passage probably means a person who is ______.

       A．helpful and supportive    B．gentle and modest

       C．likable and successful      D．friendly and kind

From the text, we can infer the best therapy mentioned in the last paragraph is mainly for

people _______.

       A．with high self-esteem      B．with low self-esteem

       C．of all kinds                D．who are focusing on building self-esteem

　 I am a big peacemaker. I would much rather take the blame for just about anything

than get into an____36_____．

　 However, Lose-Win（委曲求全）is weak. It's easy to get____37_____．on and easy to

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　 My____38_____with my mom all started one day when she said to me sarcastically（挖

苦），“Wow，you're sure___39____today.”I took it so seriously that I decided to_____40_____，

myself off from her and never talk back to her. So every time she would say something，

____41_____I disagreed with her I would just say，“Okay，_____42_____you want，Mom"

　 But I_____43___got cold quickly. One night I just_____44_____talking to my mom about

the school homework and she said，“‘Oh，that's 45　 ”and then went back to mop

the floor.

　 “Don’t you ever_____46____？”I thought.　 But I didn't say anything and stormed off.

She had no idea I was even____47_____．She would have been willing to____48_____to me had I

told her how important it was to me.

　 _____49____，I just blew up.“Mom，this has got to____50______．You tell me everything

you want me to do and I just do i‘because it's______51____than quarrelling. Well，I’m sick

of it.”This all came as a 　 52　 to her.

　 After my blowup，we felt like we were starting all over in our 53　 ．But it's

getting better all the time. We discuss things now and I always　 54　 my feelings with her.

　 If you adopt Lose-Win as your basic attitude toward life，you'll be　 55　 your

true feelings deep inside. And that’s not healthy.

36. A. apology　　　　　　 B. argument　 C. emergency　　　 D. enemy

37. A. held　　　　　　　　 B. focused　 C. moved　　　　　 D. stepped

38. A. fights　　　　　　　 B. problems　 C. quarrels　　　　 D. talks

39. A. lucky　　　　　　　 B. polite　　 C. troublesome　　 D. clever

40. A. close　　　　　　　 B. cut　　　 C. set　　　　　　 D. take

41. A. as if　　　　　　　 B. as long as　 C. even though　 D. so that

42. A. something　　　　　 B. whatever　　 C. nothing　　 　D. too much

43. A. really　　　　　　　 B. even　　　 C: eagerly　　　 D. maybe

44. A. finished　　　　　　 B. kept　　　　 C. avoided　　　 D. remembered

45. A. true　　　　　　　　 B. impossible　 C. nice　　　　　 D. fair

46. A. agree　　　　　　　 B. promise　　 C. scold　　　　 D. care

47. A. impatient　 B. frightened　 C. sure　　　　 D. upset

48. A. talk　　　　 B. explain　　 C. come　　　　 D. get

49. A. Anyway　　　 B. After a while　 C. At last　 D. Once again

50. A, happen　　　 B. change　　　　 C. last　　　 D. stop

51. A. worse　　　 B, easier　　　　 C. more　　　 D. safer

52. A, surprise　　 B. pleasure　　　 C. gift　　　 D. harm

53. A. hardship　　 B. relationship　 C. faith　　 D. life

54. A. share　　　 B. have　　　　　 C. discuss　 D. express

55. A. hurting　　 B. leaving　　　　 C. storing　 D. hiding

Too many people want others to be their friends，but they don’t give friendship back. That is why some friendships don’t last long. To have a friend，you must learn to be one. You must learn to treat your friend the way you want your friend to treat you. Learning to be a good friend means learning three rules：be honest；be generous；be understanding.
Honesty is where a good friendship starts. Friends must be able to trust one another. If you do not tell the truth，people usually find out. If a friend finds out that you haven’t been honest，you may lose the friend’s trust. Good friends always count_ on one another to speak and act honestly.
Generosity means sharing and sharing makes a friendship grow. You do not have to give your lunch money or your clothes .Naturally you will want to share your ideas and feelings. These can be very valuable to a friend. They tell your friend what is important to you. By sharing them，you help your friend know better.
Sooner or later every one needs understanding and helping with a problem. Something may go wrong at school. Talking about the problem can make it easier to solve. Turning to a friend can be the first step in solving the problem. So to be a friend you must listen and understand. You must try to put yourself in your friend’s place so you can understand the problem better.
No two friendships are ever exactly alike .But all true friendships have three things in common. If you plan to keep your friends，you must practice honesty，generosity and understanding.
【小题1】Some friendships don’t last very long because ________.

A．there are too many people who want to make friends

B．some people receive friendship but don’t give friendship back

C．those who give others friendship receive friendship from others

D．they don’t know friendship is something serious

【小题2】According to the passage，honesty is________.

A．something countable

B．the base of friendship

C．as important as money

D．more important than anything else

【小题3】The best title of this passage is ________.

A．Honesty Is the Best Policy

B．A Friend in Need Is a Friend Indeed

C．How to Be Friends

D．Three Important Points in Life

【小题4】What’s the meaning of “count on” in this passage?

A．数，点（数）	B．认为，看作
C．重视	D．期待